Gabbi has developed a new (strong) affinity to lipstick! She has to have some in her hand every single day. The silver lining is that she has now learned to swipe it off above and below her lips to clear it all off her face. It was a process, but we are finally there.
Next, the most recent personality test we have explored at MMPT is The 5 Love Languages. I took the test, and COULD NOT BELIEVE what my love language was. In fact, I hesitate to discuss it, even at work, because I am a bit confused about it. "They" say that your love language is really the outward demonstative way you show love. And I would've sworn that was Giving Gifts. I feel like I "reward" my workers with gifts, I shower my kids with gifts, and well, if I love you, I probably have given you a gift. However, when I took the test, gift giving ended up being my LAST area! Everybody at MMPT jokes with me about not being a hugger. I don't hug a lot, I dont' go up and do the shoulder squeeze, etc, and yet, it turned out to be number three. And my number one? Words of Affirmation! I was literally shocked. I am not a big verbal praiser. I don't give you the googoo, you're doing so awesome, stuff that some of my CLEARLY words of affirmation need.
Shall I move on?! WOW!
Oh, wait. NO I can't! I want to share one more thing! Remember, it's my way of loving you! ha I discovered that Ellie's is Quality Time!! And Gabbi Girl's is clearly Physical Touch! She wakes in the morning and reaches to rub my arm or hold hands! But, the first thing out of her mouth is "I love you, mom" , which is also what I hear should she wake up in the middle of the night for even a split second. She is just full to the rim with love. It is the first thing she thinks of when given a tiny speck of time to talk, "I love you". But, she strokes me and rubs me and wants to sit close to me AT ALL TIMES. As for Ellie... nooooot so much! She is the kid who (and I didn't realize this until I really thought about my kids' love languages), can tell me every single parent who has been to eat lunch with their child this year! I mean, like, "Anderson's mom has been once. Isabellas' mom has been 4 times, Logan's mom has been 3 times"... etc. She even said, "and you have been two times. That one time when you came with Gabbi. And then you and dad and JinJin and Pops all came at Thanksgiving. Remember?" It means a lot to her that I walk her in the school in the morning. And she CRAVES time with just me to sit in the art room and do projects together. Maybe I'll be surprised someday that I am wrong. But for now, I am trying to show them love through their unique languages. I had my schedulers actually SCHEDULE in times to eat lunch with Ellie for the next three weeks. And when I first walk in the door after work, Gabbi runs to me screaming, "Mooom's home!" And I swoop her up and love on her EVERY day. And within the first 10 minutes, I have shifted to looking at Ellie's papers from school and sitting on the counter with her (just being honest here!), to talk about her day.
So, this is our Christmas card this year. I don't know if I ever shared it. I am such a slacker blogger lately. Sorry. It's going to be a really great blog week though, so hang on! And let me redeem myself.